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Gaining Self-Confidence

Joce Rose at the San Jose Rose Garden | Gaining Self-Confidence
An image of self love

Hello everyone.  I’m going to explain how you can be confident in yourself.  I know a lot of you are going through painful moments and feeling like you are in a sticky situation. That’s why I’m here to help you. If you’re reading this, it means you’re probably going through some struggles or you want to get inspired on how to love yourself more.  Doing things that help you feel confident in yourself isn’t selfish, it’s doing the things that make you happy the most.  And when you feel self-confidence, it also affects the relationship with others too.

Self-confidence is accepting the fact that you believe in yourself.  You believe in yourself by being yourself, doing what you desire, and appreciating what you have. Throughout middle school and high school, I as having a hard time believing in myself because I let other peoples words running around in my head thinking that I’m not good enough. The worse part was that I was living in a toxic household with verbal abuse that still lives in my head today.

Did I let that affect me? Maybe I did at first, but each year until today, I have learned to grow my mindset more. It took me until after high school to know who I am, who supports and appreciates me, and not caring what others think of me.

“Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself”

Coco Chanel

Being self-confident is what makes you a winner. And I’m going to explain how you can be self confident about yourself.

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Look at yourself in the mirror and complement yourself

We all have our good days and bad days.  I remember when I used to break down in the middle of the day and hid myself in the bathroom to bawl my eyes out. Then look in the mirror at my own reflection and take a look at myself with tears rolling down my cheeks. Because I held back my emotions, I tell myself that it is okay to cry when I need to. I talked to myself in the mirror and say a nice compliment to myself to get me into a better mood.

“You are a beautiful person and I know that you can do it!”

No matter how I look, I know that I am beautiful no matter what. No matter what people say, I know that I can do it.

After letting out all my emotions, I smile at myself and walk out of the bathroom so I can continue having a better day. I try to make the best day as possible after taking time letting out my emotions so I can remind myself that I am a strong independent woman.

Write a list of good things that describe you

Go on and grab a piece of paper or a journal and write a list of things that best describes you.  Think about the positive things that people say to you or what good things you vision yourself as.

When you write a list down of what best describes it can make your day better and it will change your life.  Writing down is what keeps the positive energy going for you.

Live your life the way you want

Your life is your own space. Don’t forget that this is your life and you can do whatever you desire.  It is up to you to make up your own desires on what you want to do with your life. And no matter what others and society is doing, this is your life.

Whatever you think you’re doing with your life is something that you don’t want to do, then don’t do it.  Do what makes you the happiest and in your place.

Your life is your own space. It doesn’t matter what people think about how you live your life and if people don’t accept the way you live your life then they don’t know or want what’s best for you.

Find good habits

Making good habits is to help you make a cycle of your routine. When you make something into a habit ask yourself these questions like:

What can I do to make a good cycle for my life?

What is my routine?

How do these habits affect me?

When you create a good cycle of what you’re doing, then you have created a good way of living.

Check out my Morning Routine, Daily Routine, and Night Routines to create a new cycle.

Cut out the toxicity

Being in toxic relationships is the one ticket to bringing you down because it gives you negativity.  Toxicity creates chaos and negativity. 

If you feel like you are living in somebody’s shadow, ask yourself some questions and be honest about it. 

Don’t be afraid to walk away from a toxic relationship.  Trust me, you will feel a lot happier.

“Cutting negative people out of my life does not mean I hate them, it simply means I respect me”

Marilyn Monroe

Take the day to yourself

Dress up and go outside.

Take time for yourself and take yourself out on a date and relax. Have a good time for yourself.  

It’s okay to take the day for yourself.  Go on, and take yourself out for coffee or go to the movies.  Do what makes YOU feel happy.

When you take yourself out on a date, it helps discover who you are and you are willing to accept the fact that you are proud of what you have achieved in life.  

Don’t expect too much

We all have expectations, but expecting too much is what is disappointing. 

When you have things all planned out and things go the way that you want, there are two different moods. You could be surprised or you can be disappointed. 

When you don’t have too many expectations, you will less likely stress about it.

Sleep it off

Sleep is very important and boosts confidence.  When you sleep about 7 – 8 hours a night, it gives a good impact for you. 

Before you go to bed, give yourself a night routine. Giving yourself a routine before going to bed will help go to sleep faster and give you a good nights rest. When you have good sleep, you will create positivity throughout your day.

Just keep breathing

Just take a moment for yourself and take your time to relax.

Now’s the time to just…

Breathe in. Breathe out.

Repeat it 3-10 times.

How do you feel?  

You have you and don’t need need anybody else

We do have fall out of friendships, have a hard time getting out of relationships, or we lose someone very important in our life.  The first thing we think about is “I have no one” “I’m all alone.”  You are not alone in this situation. 

Why?

You still have you.

“you can’t stop me from being myself”

Emilie FitzGerald

Take the time for you to make a good relationship with yourself before you think about your relationship with reality.

You are one in a million!

Try it out

Now I want you to try those activities.  It is worth doing because you are learning the true beauty of yourself.

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